Race Interjecting with Sexuality
-Race Play (Use of the N word), Plantation
-Nazi play
-Humiliation Play
This is very interesting. I know we have talked about this in class before but it still somewhat bothers me.
My question is: can race play only happen with a white and black partner? Can race play not take place with two people of the same race?
In my opinion, race play is not something I would want to participate in. I would not be too comfortable with having a white person calling me a nigger. I have never been called one in my life and I do not know how I would react if something like that were to happen.
To me, participating in race play means that we are still oppressed.
Being called a bitch or anything negative in the bedroom is something I can't even wrap my head around.
Is being dominated in the bedroom a preference??? Yes it is, very much so. Some people prefer it and are sexually aroused.
The historical contexts are very much important in this. I feel as though our people have came too far to go back and be called these very degrading things.
Black women being so strong for so long, wanting to be dominated in the bedroom. They feel as if they want someone else to take control for once. I'm not sure when and where it came about that black women had to be strong all the time.
Friday, November 14, 2014
Writing Response #7
Since my major is
Criminal Justice, I think I want to focus on the LGBT community on the police
force and in the jail. This is not a very talked about topic but it is very
prevalent in today’s society.
I want to focus on what
the officers go through, how they come out or if they even come out at all.
I also want to talk
about the LGBT community from the prisoner’s perspective. I will talk about
what they go through, how they are housed and what they experience while
incarcerated.
My paper/topic relates to the theme of the class because our class focuses on gender and sexuality and I figured the LGBT Community would be a great topic to touch on since I haven't all semester. This will give you an almost inside look at how this community is treated or not treated while behind bars.
I believe my only challenge will be finding various sources of information. I've done a light search online and the internet has many articles and law pages regarding the LGBT Community but I am not too sure I will find the same in books.
Wednesday, November 5, 2014
FAT SEX?!?!? How dare we??
How dare we even talk about fat sex?
What has gotten into us??? Lol.
Well as a plus size women myself, size 14 to be exact, this topic is exactly what I want to talk about.
If I can get a little personal for a second, I love to have sex. I am not ashamed of my body enough to not do it, and I am comfortable enough to take off my clothes in front of a man.
It is so typical for people to frown their face up at a sex scene like the one in the show Homeland. I mean what is wrong with a fat girl and a "average size" man having sex. Happens all the time, I'm sure. But it's just not on camera. Maybe that was the issue. Or maybe people are still not accepting of it.
As much as people try to be accepting of bigger people, they aren't. Some think we are disgusting and other think we just need to stay at home and be depressed. But I have news for them. Big girls are IN and WINNING. There are plenty of people who love and appreciate bigger women.
For Abercrombie & Fitch to not make plus size shirts for females but make them for males is very sexist if you ask me. It is basically accepting that men can be fat and out of shape but women can't. We are always expected to be pretty, clean and in shape.
It is already hard enough for a larger person to go day to day without seeing all these diet, exercise, gym and weight loss commercials. Some of us know we need to lose weight but nothing can happen until that person is ready to as well.
Contrary to popular belief, a lot of heavier people have great health and are not the ones with diseases. But yet all these "skinny" and "healthy" people are dying all over the place. Seems to me as if we aren't the only ones with "health issues".
Granted, being overweight is unhealthy because your organs have to work twice as hard to pump blood and you are putting a lot of weight on your legs, but who says everyone was meant to be a size 6? Some people look nice and healthy with a little weight on. Others tend to look sickly without weight.
In order for one to accept their body appearance, they just have to know what they want and are comfortable with. I know personally, since I have lost a little weight I am able to see more of my neck and my stomach has gone down and I can turn in the mirror and see an actual shape instead of being round at the waist. I think for me once I started seeing results with working out, it motivated me to continue on and see how far I can get.
Being sexy is all about your mindset. You cannot let another person determine if how you look is sexy or not. I also think being sexy has a lot to do with your attitude. You can be the prettiest girl with the nastiest attitude and that automatically makes you ugly.
Everyone is entitled to pleasure. You can be both the giver and receiver. My only hope is that one practices safety while participating in any sexual escapades.
I think the porn industry has only scratched the surface of showing plus size women in porn. It is going to take more than porn to get the point across through. Not everyone watches porn. These images will have to somehow make their way into mainstream Internet, TV, Magazines, etc in order to really be exposed and later, accepted.
I think the images in the readings were beautiful. I love a full figured woman. And I love it even more that she was posing with an average size man. Just goes to show she has confidence and can publicly display her body in a classy way.
As far as the word slut goes, I see it as women who just enjoy sex as much as you do. Take the word hoe for example, I take that word to mean, if people know all your sexual partners. I do believe your sex life should be as private as possible. You can't simply look at a person and tell they've had sex with multiple women/men. You only know what people allow you to know.
Those are my thoughts.
What has gotten into us??? Lol.
Well as a plus size women myself, size 14 to be exact, this topic is exactly what I want to talk about.
If I can get a little personal for a second, I love to have sex. I am not ashamed of my body enough to not do it, and I am comfortable enough to take off my clothes in front of a man.
It is so typical for people to frown their face up at a sex scene like the one in the show Homeland. I mean what is wrong with a fat girl and a "average size" man having sex. Happens all the time, I'm sure. But it's just not on camera. Maybe that was the issue. Or maybe people are still not accepting of it.
As much as people try to be accepting of bigger people, they aren't. Some think we are disgusting and other think we just need to stay at home and be depressed. But I have news for them. Big girls are IN and WINNING. There are plenty of people who love and appreciate bigger women.
For Abercrombie & Fitch to not make plus size shirts for females but make them for males is very sexist if you ask me. It is basically accepting that men can be fat and out of shape but women can't. We are always expected to be pretty, clean and in shape.
It is already hard enough for a larger person to go day to day without seeing all these diet, exercise, gym and weight loss commercials. Some of us know we need to lose weight but nothing can happen until that person is ready to as well.
Contrary to popular belief, a lot of heavier people have great health and are not the ones with diseases. But yet all these "skinny" and "healthy" people are dying all over the place. Seems to me as if we aren't the only ones with "health issues".
Granted, being overweight is unhealthy because your organs have to work twice as hard to pump blood and you are putting a lot of weight on your legs, but who says everyone was meant to be a size 6? Some people look nice and healthy with a little weight on. Others tend to look sickly without weight.
In order for one to accept their body appearance, they just have to know what they want and are comfortable with. I know personally, since I have lost a little weight I am able to see more of my neck and my stomach has gone down and I can turn in the mirror and see an actual shape instead of being round at the waist. I think for me once I started seeing results with working out, it motivated me to continue on and see how far I can get.
Being sexy is all about your mindset. You cannot let another person determine if how you look is sexy or not. I also think being sexy has a lot to do with your attitude. You can be the prettiest girl with the nastiest attitude and that automatically makes you ugly.
Everyone is entitled to pleasure. You can be both the giver and receiver. My only hope is that one practices safety while participating in any sexual escapades.
I think the porn industry has only scratched the surface of showing plus size women in porn. It is going to take more than porn to get the point across through. Not everyone watches porn. These images will have to somehow make their way into mainstream Internet, TV, Magazines, etc in order to really be exposed and later, accepted.
I think the images in the readings were beautiful. I love a full figured woman. And I love it even more that she was posing with an average size man. Just goes to show she has confidence and can publicly display her body in a classy way.
As far as the word slut goes, I see it as women who just enjoy sex as much as you do. Take the word hoe for example, I take that word to mean, if people know all your sexual partners. I do believe your sex life should be as private as possible. You can't simply look at a person and tell they've had sex with multiple women/men. You only know what people allow you to know.
Those are my thoughts.
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